Lost & Found - The Song of Self Discovery

Self-discovery isn't just about finding yourself, it's about unearthing the layers of who you truly are, even if it means defying societal norms and expectations. It's about bravely questioning the narratives we've been fed since childhood and forging our path, regardless of where it may lead.

Psychologists have been studying identity for decades. One of the pioneers in this field is Erik Erikson, who proposed the theory of psychosocial development and famously coined the term "identity crisis." According to Erikson, identity formation is a lifelong process that involves navigating a series of psychosocial stages, each presenting its own set of challenges and opportunities for growth.

So, you could say that identity isn't stagnant – it's fluid, ever-evolving and unfolds over time. Just when we think we've unraveled ourselves, life throws us curveballs, challenging our assumptions and urging us to redefine who we are and what we stand for, again.

But what happens when you realize that the life you've been living isn't truly yours?

With obstacles lurking around every corner, the journey can be daunting, and yet, amid uncertainty, there's an undeniable truth: being lost is how we get found.

The Himba people of Namibia crafted a ceremony known as Erembe—a sacred rite of passage for lost souls seeking their identity.

The ceremony is held at moonlight, and alive with the scent of wood smoke as the rhythmic beat of drums grows stronger, driving out shadows of doubt and fear. Beneath ancient acacia trees, adorned with ochre, their voices rise in a haunting melody that's said to call the wayward soul back. Around the flickering flames of the fire, the tribe come together, to share stories of courage, resilience, and belonging.

In the heart of the circle sits the undiscovered—a mind grappling with uncertainty, unsure of its place in the world. They listen intently as the elders weave tales of their ancestors, painting vivid portraits of lives in harmony with the land and the spirits that dwell within it. They shed the weight of conformity with each word and embrace the liberating light of authenticity and connection. Connection to something much greater than themselves.

So, maybe you don't need to quit your day job and join the Himba tribe to find that rhythmic hum. When the chips are down (and not just because you're sprawled on the floor with a bowl of them) and you're feeling like time's ticking away faster than you can crunch - Who reminds you of the amazing soul you are?

Write down the names of those who have earned your trust and loyalty, those you would show up for in a heartbeat knowing they'd do the same for you. Keep this list close by as a reminder of the love and support that surrounds you. After all, Connection is why we're here.

And if the journey feels overwhelming, seek support and professional help, they too are your tribe. Here's to being lost and finding a connection.

Signing this one as your fellow occasional wayward soul